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pass the dutchy 12:37 Sun Nov 2
Long distance relationships

So I mentioned on the Fate thread about this girl in Germany whilst at my conference.

She's from Florida and I have gone from this will never work to you never know.

So basically I have met this amazing girl, she's stunning, but most,of all we click personality wise. The time zone is killing me as I stay up at night talking and sometimes fall asleep at 3am only to get up at 6am.

I am planning to go out in December to see her (and I guess to see what she is like in her environment).

Has anyone else had a long distance relationship and made it work or am I just investing in something that really will just fade out over time.

We spoke for six hours last night after i got home from Stoke. Fucking long day.

Miller 3:49 Mon Nov 3
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FEH - Nice story mate - good luck to them both and you too

joe royal 3:38 Mon Nov 3
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I had a Swedish gf that lived in Helsinki
It lasted for about 6 months. Flew out once a month for the weekend

Can be done just needs a bit of planning

We split up because she drank more than I did

13 Brentford Rd 3:15 Mon Nov 3
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......rarely work!

joe royal 2:56 Mon Nov 3
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Or cider

ironsofcanada 1:21 Mon Nov 3
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glenny boy 1:17 Mon Nov 3

Almost exactly my experience, oh the heady days of the new(ish) internet.

But it worked out for the best and I learned a lot. And I have a number of friends and acquaintances it has worked for.

glenny boy 1:17 Mon Nov 3
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I tried it, fell head over heels with the lady then got dumped out of the blue.
It is very hard to maintain, both time consuming and costly, but it can work.

Wish you luck.

Yarmouth 1:12 Mon Nov 3
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Dude, does she work in a call centre..

:-)

The Kronic 12:31 Mon Nov 3
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easthambull 12:15

*chortles.

easthambull 12:15 Mon Nov 3
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The Kronic 1:59 Sun Nov 2
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My lady is Canadian......


Your lady. Who the fuck are you, Oscar Pistorius?

Far Cough 12:02 Mon Nov 3
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HAHAHA! I bet she'll contribute far more to society than you, you 24 hour pyjama wearing, bedsit dwelling, cider soaked cunt!

royal doesn't have any pyjamas

The Kronic 12:01 Mon Nov 3
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joe royal 6:02

HAHAHA! I bet she'll contribute far more to society than you, you 24 hour pyjama wearing, bedsit dwelling, cider soaked cunt!

Lee Trundle 11:47 Mon Nov 3
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I got involved in a long distance relationship to an American girl 8 years ago who was studying over here briefly.

3 years ago, we got married. And we're still very much happily married.

So yes, it can work.

riosleftsock 11:37 Mon Nov 3
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I married my missus after a long distance relationship.

To be honest, I know people who have had girlfriends/fiancees in scotland who found it harder to visit each other.

pass the dutchy 11:28 Mon Nov 3
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See this is what this forum is all about.

Really apprecaite all the comments and its been very helpful. I realise it aint going to be easy if I do want to make this work.

Guess the only well to tell is to get my arse out there for a holiday.

Far East Hammer 3:20 Mon Nov 3
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Not me. But my Dad.

Back in 2000 we lost my Mum. She'd been suffering from MS; so for the last few years my Dad had stopped even having an occasional whisky or G&T at home. He'd even started to help out with housework, including ironing - something which I had NEVER seen him do before.

Anyway, after my Mum died he was really, really low for a year-or-so. Pretty much until I became a father. He started visiting Hong Kong quite a bit. But staying in a hotel and courtesy of ICQ he used to find various "companions" to meet with in-between visits to tearfully hold Far East Hammerette. There was a Mainland Chinese woman living & working in HK who was a bit of a battle axe that he was sort-of going steady with for a while. However, after she came to the UK for Christmas he realised that she was very much not for him.

He then started travelling to places he either always wanted to go to, or had visited back in the 70s or early 80s on business but never had the time to properly see. Once again he made full use of ICQ.

Most of this was an "around the world in 80 lays" kind of thing.

However, there was one that he told my sister & me about before he met up with her. He seemed to think that his "sixth sense" was kicking-in somehow. An Uruguayan of Italian ancestry. Widow. No kids (in HK there had also been a Japanese bird he'd liked but didn't want to become a step dad)

Now I'll switch to what she said about their first meeting (she told me this earlier this year whilst we were waiting to visit my Dad in hospital when he was recovering from a couple of major surgeries, including a trip bypass, plus a month in a coma):

She went to Carrasco (Montevideo's airport) to meet this man she'd chatted to online. Whilst waiting for the flight to land she was getting a bit jittery. Flight landed. She calmed herself down. But then the nerves got to her again. After a couple of minutes she decided to step outside of the terminal building to calm her nerves. Had a ciggie. At this point my father came out of arrivals and started looking around for her (it's not the biggest arrivals hall in the world at Montevideo, it must be said). He bought some flowers and then walked outside looking for her.

Maria had more-or-less decided that it was insanity to meet some guy off of the internet. So she decided to walk back to her car. However, a few steps along she saw my old man asking a policeman where they could make an announcement for her (thinking he'd missed her somehow inside the terminal). They then clocked one another - and that was that. They suddenly clicked. (What in the Godfather II film/ the Godfather book was described as "getting the thunderbolt" - when I'm not going under the FEH name I sport a Sicilian surname)

They married in 2006. In 2011 it looked like things were on the rocks for a while. The UK didn't work out for Maria. A qualified (medical) Doctor, but would need too many conversion courses to practice in the UK. So she decided to take up Spanish teaching (easier hours also) - but there was quite a bit of snootiness regarding her Uruguayan Spanish so work was hard to come by. (The "ll" in paella being pronounced "sh"; the "y" being pronounced "ysh" and the failure to lisp/lithp as if auditioning for the part of the Roman ruler in a remake of Life of Brian). Plus her parents fell ill back in Uruguay. So she decamped back to Uruguay. There had been a few blazing rows over her decision to go back to Uruguay - my old man lost his job about this time, and being post-65 didn't see a new job as being likely.

So when Far East Hammerette, Mrs FEH and myself went back for Xmas 2011 (actually my first Xmas in Blighty since 1994), my Dad was resigned to getting a divorce. Early 2012 he decided to go over to Uruguay to "discuss matters." But the thunderbolt got them both again.

At the moment, his missus is working in Uruguay to top-up her state pension and also ensure that my Dad can get Uruguayan residency and possibly citizenship (so that he can be covered by the Uruguayan NHS). My Dad's travel insurance allows him to travel for up to three months a year overseas, so this December-February he'll once again go over for three months.

So they're making it work.

So yes, it can work. But it ain't necessarily easy.

Balto 2:17 Mon Nov 3
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PTD, I met my wife in LA in 1993. I'm looking at her now as I type this. We've been married 20 years and have three kids and live in San Francisco.

I asked her to marry me after knowing her for 10 days. I thought I would always think back and regret not going for it so I did. Can't say it was always easy but
we did live with each other for 5 weeks at a time both in the U.S. and in Germany where I lived at the time.

Dan M 1:02 Mon Nov 3
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When I was at college I met a really lovely girl. Due to circumstance we only had one date and although her father cut the date short I couldn't get her out of my head. Unfortunately she moved to Fiji which seemed like a million miles away.

Funnily enough I soon started courting a different girl whom I eventually married when I finished my education. But all the time I was with her, I still thought about that one interrupted date.

Eventually, after a period of increasingly bizarre behaviour from both of us, my wife and I split up and taking things into my own hands, I took my father's boat and headed toward my girl. While on this journey I encountered bad weather and the yacht capsized, but somehow I got back on course before crashing into a wall in the ocean.

It was at this point I discovered that my life was an elaborately constructed TV show, with the whole world built around me since birth.

Anyway, if I don't see you later good afternoon, good evening and good night.

VirginiaHam 12:52 Mon Nov 3
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Sven Roeder 12:40 Mon Nov 3

I did it with a girl who lived in Virginia. I was living in London. Takes a lot of work and willingness to travel, commitment too.

We married in 2001 and had a son, who's now 11. She died of cancer last year.

I love our son, and it was fantastic.

Honest Hammer 12:45 Mon Nov 3
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I asked his Mrs that question.

She said she loves living in London.

Can't believe she's bought that!

Mr. Burns 12:31 Mon Nov 3
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LA or Chadwell Heath. Hard decision that.

Honest Hammer 12:30 Mon Nov 3
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Good pal of mine went to Vegas with some mates. While he was out there he met a girl from LA.

I was his Sunday league manager at the time.

Every month or so he'd take a weekend off for the tendinitis in his knees. Turns out he was meeting her for long weekends at various places on the globe to cave her in.

None of his mates would let on but he was engaged within about 6 months and married her out in the states, then had to wait for her visa to move here. In the meantime he was wanking to her over Skype etc.

Both now very happy and lives in Chadwell Heath.

There's a story about how it can work, but there will be a million to show it doesn't.

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